It’s time to wake up.
I know you wonder why everything costs you twice as much as the rest.
And that you understand that everyone has different processes and different times.
But it sucks.
And you’re sick of spending the day in hell.
I hear you.
I was there for more than 13 years.
Nothing went right for me; instead of being the King Midas of the fairy tale and turning everything into gold, I was King Poop, and I turned everything I touched into shit.
- I had a beautiful girlfriend who ended up running away.
- I had great friends who ended up running away.
- I had a good job, which ended up destroying me.
When you spend all day in hell, nothing goes right. And everything gets worse by the minute, doesn’t it?
There is no such thing as hitting bottom because you always dig a little deeper into your misfortune.
There’s something that keeps you in hell.
There’s something that bewitches you and turns you into a Gollum obsessed with the one Ring.
There is something that keeps you imprisoned in that hell.
Something that you long for and consumes you at the same time.
That something makes you understand the phrase “what you possess, possesses you.”
But it’s not easy to get rid of the One Ring.
The One Ring
It can take many forms: alcohol, toxic relations, tobacco, drugs, p*rn, food addiction, compulsive shopping.
But it all boils down to the same thing: low self-esteem.
Eventually, you become addicted to suffering.
I know what I’m talking about.
At the worst of my hell, I had thoughts as pathetic as “You never feel more love than with heartbreak.”
And so I would convince myself and romanticize the toxic partners I encountered. — Although, truth be told, I was more toxic than drinking whiskey and hemlock 🙂
Victimhood gives identity
When you become addicted to suffering, you identify with victimhood.
That identity makes you feel less alone because, with it, you get attention.
But that attention ends up turning into pity.
And you don’t need pity; you need help.
But help will not come from outside a priori; that help has to come from inside you.
The first step is to want to change; it is decisive.
The other day, a single mother from Buenos Aires wrote to me, saying she had no money to buy my book. But she read me every day. (Hi! If you are reading this 🙂
She understood what I wrote in my articles. It was good for her, but she knew she still had a long way to go.
I told him that the first step (wanting to change) is the most crucial thing, realizing it is waking up from the dream; it’s just a matter of time to get better.
It took me seven years of rehabilitation — I confessed to the girl.
But the changes start to happen after a month, and you see the light little by little.
You just have to awaken your inner hero.
I said it to the girl, and I say it to you, too.
You need to awaken your Frodo Baggins (your inner hero) and take the one Ring (your addiction to suffering) forged by Sauron (the evil that dwells within you) to Sammath Naur to cast him into the fiery abyss of the Rifts of Fate.
And if you have already taken the first step — recognizing that you want to change — your Frodo Baggins is already awakening, and you will begin to take back your life.
And when you do and start to get better, many people will appear in your path, willing to help you, little Frodo.
Because the Fellowship of the Ring appears when you want to destroy the One Ring. Reread it 🙂
When they see that commitment on your part, the whole universe conspires in your favor, sending you the people you need to get out of hell.
Wake up!
A virtual hug, little Frodo 🙂
AG