#6. Your soul doesn’t resonate with everybody. And that’s okay.
2023 has been one of the bitter years of my life.
I lost money.
I lost friends.
I lost hope.
But, thank god, I’m still alive.
But, you know what? The bitter lessons I learned this year have made my life sweeter.
Let me share some with you.
1. There is no point in being interested in someone who is no longer interested in you.
When the person no longer feels connected with you, It doesn’t matter how many emojis you use in your messages or how original your good night GIFs are.
The person you send them to doesn’t like them anymore.
You go from being the best friend to the annoying one who insists on demanding attention, and every detail you have with them, they will take it as something annoying and undesirable.
Don’t break your head trying to keep someone next to you.
The best option is to continue your life and wait for time to work its magic.
Let me tell you a great truth I learned this year: if you show disinterest in the person who betrayed you and left and focus on recovering emotionally, sooner or later, the person who caused you the pain will come back.
Because people didn’t value you because you were always there for them, but when you stop being there for them, they will miss your company and help in their days 😉
2. It is better to say no than to make excuses or say yes and do something you don’t want to do.
People have the strange habit of insisting on proposing things you don’t like doing. Isn’t it true?
And because you don’t want to lose “friendship points,” you end up a) making excuses or b) doing things you don’t want to do.
Whatever you choose, you always look bad.
It is better to be sincere and say no, even if the other person gets upset or you never hear from them again. Because if they are only with you when you say yes to everything, they are not true friends.
This year taught me that the things you keep quiet about are the things that end up poisoning you inside and making you suffer unnecessarily.
Note: to speak is not to go and give explanations. To provide explanations is to submit yourself to the assessment of another person, and it is usually something unidirectional where you make excuses (option a) instead of dealing with a concrete matter and establishing your limits in a bidirectional way, establishing a dialogue.
3. When people know they did wrong, they avoid you.
It is too naive to think that people will return when they realize they were wrong.
If a person who left your life doing wrong comes back, it is — as I said in point one — because they want to get back what they got from you: companionship, help, attention.
But if they don’t have some need, they’re not going to come back to tell you, “I’m so sorry, you were right. I was wrong.”
And, of course, if it is the case, and they do, keep that friend as if it were a treasure. Such mature friends are rare.
Most people use social media tactics; they get carried away with superficial information, polarize, and make you the bad guy, and when they realize that you weren’t that bad and did you social harm by badmouthing you, they don’t show their face.
They don’t want to say “I was wrong”.
These people would rather lose your friendship than have to take responsibility.
Don’t suffer for this kind of people, because with friends like this who need enemies.
4. Pretending that things don’t hurt you hurts more.
Stop hiding your pain behind your smiles. — Pain is necessary.
Pain alerts us that something is wrong. Pain forces us to take action. Pain encourages us to let go of unnecessary weight. Pain transforms us. Pain is the only shortcut I know to happiness.
Because when you learn the lesson pain wanted to teach you, pain transforms you into someone better.
Remember: getting better is an act of love for oneself. And even if, to get better, you have to face a certain degree of discomfort, by increasing your self-esteem and self-confidence, your inner quality of life will improve.
And there’s nothing better than feeling good inside your skin. — Not even money.
Money is useless when the voices in your head torment you at night. (Believe me. I know what I am talking about).
5. There is a last day for everything.
Relationships don’t last forever. Luck does not last forever. Good or bad situations don’t last forever.
But you know what?
You’re not forever, either.
And there are things and people that the universe/God or whatever you want to call it has to take away from you so that the time you have left in this world can be spent living new experiences.
It’s that simple, that complicated.
You have to make room to refill your cup.
6. Your soul doesn’t resonate with everybody. And that’s okay.
You don’t have to force it.
Healthy relationships are built daily, but there must be an initial feeling.
If there is no chemistry, no matter how much you want, the relationship will fall apart at the first storm.
Take it from me: you have to learn to leave those places (and persons) where your light doesn’t turn on, or you will always live in the dark 🙂
Shine!
A virtual hug
AG