Free yourself from your attachments.
The more you let go, the happier you’ll be.
But it’s easy said than do it.
Maybe, if we understand the benefits of letting go, we will take the practice of detachment more seriously.
And there are tons of benefits to mastering the subtle art of letting go.
It makes you grow. It makes you a better human being. It’s good for your mental health and inner peace.
It’s game-changing.
It improves your adaptability. It better your relationships, social interaction, and your team skills at work.
In resume, it makes you healthier, wealthier, and happier.
So, why not make an effort to improve your letting-go skills?
Let’s try this.
Stop identifying with social labels
One of the main reasons you attach yourself to things, thoughts, and people is that your ego has an identity to protect.
You are a doctor. You are a soldier. You are a teacher. You are a CEO. You are a brother. You are a sister. You are a husband. You are a wife. You are a son. You are a father. You are a mother. You are a friend.
But who are you in reality?
Stop identifying with labels that others have chosen for you. You are much more than that.
The day you realize it, you’ll be free from attachments.
Because you’ll realize that attachments are a way to stay the same, a chain to be a prisoner of what others (family, friends, coworkers, SOCIETY) want you to be.
Don’t give a f*ck, and free yourself from the social labels.
Stop the needy mindset
“I need someone,” “I need something,” “I need… [Insert here what you think will make you happy].”
Do me a favor, mate; STOP THE SCARCITY MINDSET.
No mentally healthy adult wants to have a partner to feed emotionally.
And if you tell me, “Mine does,” chances are, you’re in a co-dependent relationship that’s as toxic as drinking bleach 🙂
Being needy = Attachment.
You attach to persons because you think you NEED something — usually, to feel worthy.
And that makes your partner your love dealer.
You don’t need a couple to make you feel worthy.
If you use relationships for this goal, you will end up driving people away from you because no one wants to be responsible for the happiness of others.
So if you want some advice so that you start to detach yourself from that kind of behavior, every time someone tells you, “you make me pleased,” answer, “I’m glad you are happy with me, and I hope it lasts long, but I am not responsible for your happiness.”
Do it because when you allow your lover to praise you by telling you that you are the reason for their happiness, they make you responsible. And one day, if they don’t feel happy, they will blame you for it.
Don’t play that game; I played it, and it sucks.
Stop being a people pleaser
Being a pleaser is manipulative as f*ck.
Every pleaser wants to be the first choice of the people who please.
Every pleaser searches for recognition, and every pleaser is an acceptance addict.
Every pleaser wants to fit in more than anything in the world because doing it makes them feel secure.
A people pleaser is Dr. Jekyll, that hides Mr. Hyde.
Their attention, favors, and good deeds come at a very high price: generating dependence and receiving attention.
A people pleaser deep inside is not a victim; a people pleaser is a control freak. And they enter on reaction-mode if they don’t get the attention they want.
Control = Attachment.
Don’t be like that; I have been like that, and on top of that, I played the victim, saying that I did this and that for others and that they didn’t pay attention to me, to make others feel sorry for me so that someone else would replace the position of the people who no longer paid attention to me.
I did things for people only to throw them back in their faces and keep people tied to me. And that’s super toxic.
Don’t be like I was.
Takeaway
Stop those three behaviors.
- Stop identifying with social labels.
- Stop the needy mindset.
- And Stop being a people pleaser.
And you’ll become a master in the subtle art of letting go.
A virtual hug
AG
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