#3 — Honor the one in your present.
When the universe takes something away from you, it is to make room and bless you with something better. — Even if you can’t (or don’t want to) see it.
Many times you don’t want to let go of that job that has you bitter with a lemony face, that friendship that has become poisonous, that love relationship that has been dead for so long that it smells rotten.
But you need it.
And the universe knows it. And that’s why it takes them away from you without anesthesia 🙂
And it hurts, it f*cking hurts, it hurts like hell.
That’s why I want to share three tips so that the blow is not so hard and you start again because brilliant things are waiting for you.
1. You don’t have to cry; you have to celebrate.
Most of the time, when you suffer a breakup, a friend turns their back on you, or a boss fires you, you experience it as a tragedy as if you’ve lost something, as if you’ve failed them.
And it’s crazy because you haven’t cut off the relationship, turned your back on your friend, or tendered your resignation to your boss.
They’re the ones who kicked you in the ass and cut you out of their life BECAUSE THEY DON’T NEED YOU ANYMORE.
And that guilt you feel is injected by them to make you look like the bad guy in the movie, and don’t ask them for explanations or complicate their lives 🙂
- When your partner leaves you, leaves you, no matter how much they cry crocodile tears over the phone.
- Friends usually pass you by because he doesn’t want you in his life. Because they have other plans, other friendship circles.
- When your boss fires you most of the time, it’s not because they are cutting staff: it’s because the company works without you. And the company wants to save your salary to improve their profit margin.
And there you are, crying, thinking about what you did wrong as if you missed out on something.
Change your mindset. Don’t cry to the one who feels liberation by leaving you. Celebrate the f*ck out of it. Celebrate that someone who didn’t want you around has left your life, and you’re no longer living a lie.
2. To the enemy silver bridge.
Whoever wants to leave your life, don’t keep him; let them go to hell. — And if possible, don’t let him come back.
It is hard advice, but it will pay off.
- Short term: you save yourself unnecessary discussions and blame that will only make you look crazy.
- Medium-term: you will heal sooner; the mourning for the loss of a relationship lasts much less if you have facilitated things in the breakup. Because you know that you have done well until the end.
- Long-term: when you start a new work, friendship, or romantic relationship, you will not be constantly reminiscing. And therefore, you will be focused on what you need to be focused on: your present.
3. Honor the one in your present.
Don’t be the person who talks about his ex all the time, or his old job, or repeats over and over again the little stories with friends he hasn’t seen in years.
The best way to make a breakup hurt less is to honor the present.
The people who want to stay with you deserve and need your undivided attention.
Thank them for their presence with the greatest gift of all: your attention.
Listen to that person who is still in your life as the years pass.
Thank the universe for the new people and opportunities in your life.
Visualize the future, and stop wasting time and energy with those who don’t want to be in it.
Do it, and soon, you will be so happy you won’t believe it.
The universe has big plans for you: new experiences, relationships, and professional projects. Life is an adventure designed for your evolution.
Let go of what is finished and be open to what will come.
Do it, and you won’t regret it.
A virtual hug
AG
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