“Don’t invest your time with people who don’t invest it in themselves.”
“Whoever does not know the sewers of himself, ends up splashing and drowning in them.” — Mario Mendoza
To make this article, I have interviewed the worst human being I know: myself.
Correction: the worst version of myself, the one that fortunately I am no longer, but still dozes in the depths of my entrails.
And I have realized that there are three subtle signs shared by people I have met who were just as horrible as I was (often without them realizing it themselves).
I hope you don’t have any of these three signs 🙂
1. You do not invest in yourself.
Don’t invest your time with people who don’t invest in themselves.
They are black holes (I was one, and a dark one at that), full of insecurities and reproaches.
Helping is always a good thing, but there are certain occasions when helping is too expensive.
When you help someone with an inferiority complex, they will accept the help, but instead of thanking you, they will make you pay.
Why?
Because that person secretly thinks that they deserve the life you live.
And from there, feeling that all the fruit of your efforts, be it material, emotional, social, or spiritual, corresponds to them is a small step.
Surely you know people like that.
I call them plumbers of love. Because every time you say no to helping them, they turn off the tap of their friendship.
So listen to me, and reserve your time for those who want to change.
You can help but need the other person to do their part. Otherwise, all you get is to feed a bruised ego that becomes an energy vacuum cleaner and will leave you dry and bitter.
Then don’t tell me that in today’s note, I didn’t warn you 🙂
2. You have a crystallized mindset.
To open your heart, you must first open other things, such as your ears, eyesight, and mind.
People incapable of opening their minds tend to be horrible, even if their intentions toward you are good initially.
I was like that until I embraced the open-mind way of life. If you don’t cultivate flexibility, you become a prison for many people.
Stay away from people with a crystallized mindset because there is only one way to do things: their way.
Either things are done the way they want, or they are done wrong.
People with this kind of crystal mind don’t tolerate things being done differently, even if they are done faster and better.
They do not want things to change, which makes them into little dictators who want to keep you immersed in their unchanging world, eternally playing the role they have reserved for you.
And that will prevent you from evolving and end up suffocating you.
3. You are eternally unsatisfied and ungrateful.
Some people are like a broken sack: no matter what you do for them, it is never enough. Nothing fills their credit balance; they always demand a duty from you.
They are people who do not value anything and do not realize it. Their coldness turns their hearts into ice temples.
Sometimes we compare ourselves with those who have “apparently” everything, and we forget that many more people have less than us.
Besides, appearances can be deceiving. Because sadness also lives in Beverly Hills, don’t forget. Money doesn’t always = happiness.
We all have problems.
The point is to avoid becoming obsessed with having, earning, and owning.
Because that makes us
- Forget to be grateful for this miracle called life.
- Instrumentalize our social relationships; we see people as economic resources, not friends. And we end up milking them like cows on a mega-farm.
That attitude can turn us into monsters.
And a monster ends up alone and bitter. Don’t forget that.
A virtual hug
AG
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