#3. The Third law: The law of anti-attraction.
Sometimes, the universe conspires not for us but against us. — Or so we think.
And I think it’s because we need to learn the hard way what we don’t want to know the easy way.
Thanks to these bitter learning processes, I have discovered three disturbing laws constantly occurring.
And I want to share them with you — as well as the lessons I learned from them and allowed me to transcend them —to know if the same thing happens to you, too.
1. First law: The law of the cannibal environment
The environment sucks you in like a vacuum cleaner.
You know what they say: you can’t spend your life in front of a hairdresser without getting a haircut. — The same goes for every place you frequent regularly, whether it’s the bar, the park under your house, or the coffee shop where you wait for your kids to finish their after-school classes.
How did I figure it out?
When I returned to the city of my childhood, I didn’t know anyone, and I didn’t want to interact with strangers either. I remember always going to write at the same coffee shop because it was a quiet environment. I would try not to interact with anyone; I would order my chai latte, put on my headphones, and start writing on my laptop, but in the end, the environment absorbed me. I got to know the names of the servers, their lives, and their existential dramas.
The same thing happened to me in an old bookstore; I went to buy second-hand books too often, and the bookstore absorbed me, and when I wanted to realize I was having breakfast from time to time with the booksellers.
The same thing happens wherever you go. The environment organizes you inside it like just another piece of furniture.
Lesson: Be careful with the places you frequent the most because if you spend enough time there, you will be part of that ecosystem. — That’s why many couples meet at work or the Gym 🙂
2. Second law: The law of emotional time speed
Life is the heart of time. If your life is going well, the heart of time increases the number of beats. If your life goes wrong, the heart of time decreases the number of beats.
The speed of life increases or decreases depending on how things are going for you.
- If things are going well for you, the years fly by.
- When things are going badly, months seem like years.
The better things go, the faster the speed.
That’s why the beginnings feel tedious and slow, but then, as your success increases, it’s like you put the turbo in the race of life.
I started writing in 2017; initially, it was all super slow. I was getting frustrated with everything; everything was languid and nerve-wracking. Now, in 2023, I’m thinking about 2020 (when my first book came out with an influential publisher), and I think it was six months ago.
Time flies when things are going well, especially when you do what you love.
That’s why I have learned to appreciate the bad moments because, despite the frustration and problems, the perception of time slows down, and I can enjoy the journey.
Lesson: failing and facing minor problems will make you appreciate the road traveled, and in those moments, you will be able to stop and smell the flowers and enjoy the views.
3. The Third law: The law of anti-attraction
You attract what you desire, but you also attract what you do not want.
Because you attract those things that you think about the most, but especially those thoughts that have a powerful emotion attached to them. Whether this emotion is negative or positive.
Which explains many of Murphy’s laws 🙂
Since what you fear the most (if you don’t stop thinking about it) manifests as the toast falling on the side of the jam.
In short, everything you reject or do not like and causes you an intense emotion every time you think about it manifests itself in your life in different ways.
In my case,
- I hated setting the table as a kid; I worked for years as a waiter.
- I hated going to the supermarket when I was young; I spent two summers as a supermarket stocker when I grew up.
- I hated how my parents treated me when I was an adolescent; I ended up taking care of them 🙂
Hating is the B side of love and, therefore, one of the poles — the negative one — of our magnet. And like any magnet, it attracts the things you hate into your life.
But the funny thing is that, as you know, opposites attract, so what we see in principle as something negative, in the end, ends up being positive.
In my particular case,
- I learned a lot about the human soul by working as a waiter, and now it relaxes me to set the table and wash the dishes.
- I love shopping and walking the aisles of the supermarket.
- And my relationship with my mother is quite good, which I am pleased about. Because during my youth, I blamed her for my problems, and in truth, she was the only person who helped me, and my problems were the fault of my addictions, not hers.
Lesson: what you don’t want to experience and don’t get out of your head and heart manifests in your life. But it’s not a bad thing; life has shown me time and time again that the greatest blessings come into our lives disguised as things we don’t want to experience.
A virtual hug
AG
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