#4. Some people tell you the truth to lie to you.
Today, everything is virtual, but there is another reality beyond the screens.
A world where betrayal and disappointment are the order of the day.
A world where there is no delete button.
A world where you can’t block a user when you don’t like what they say.
A world where you can’t always have the same smile you show on your social networks.
Not all you need to learn is in the books. The school of life is still necessary.
Maybe today more than ever.
Here are some of those lessons that the school of the street teaches you and that you will only know if you are an SSP (Street-Smart Person)
1. What seems to be the least important is often the most important.
An SSP knows that life becomes more valuable as you get older because you learn how things work even though they lose some of their charm.
And things don’t work the way most people think they do.
SSPs know that people learn to live when it’s too late.
- We value people when we lose them.
- We value health when we have to live with pain and illness.
- We value friendship and love when life leaves us alone at a certain age, and then we have no one to share a coffee or call on the phone.
And it’s a shame because we sacrifice the most important things in life in exchange for nothing. And we do it because we put the urgent before the important, and consequently, we don’t value circumstances and people correctly.
Lesson: don’t neglect your loved ones. Don’t mistreat your body; an old saying goes, “Take care of your stomach for the first 40 years, and the next 40 years it will take care of you. And be grateful because if you live long enough, life will eventually take away everything you take for granted today.
2. He who refuses to suffer becomes weaker.
SSPs know that adversity strengthens and that living in cotton wool weakens.
They also know you can’t live in La La Land all your life. Sooner or later, pain will come knocking on your door.
And when that happens, the emotional pain is much more intense because you are not used to suffering.
Antonio Gala, a great poet, once wrote, “He who does not eat shrinks his stomach; he who refuses to suffer shrinks his soul.”
And he was right.
Systematic avoidance of adversity is the quickest way to an unbearable pain threshold.
Lesson: you have to suffer and accept that suffering as your master because suffering prepares you for the tragedies that, whether you want to get it or not, you will end up suffering if you live long enough.
3. Only when you change your identity do your exes stop hurting you.
SSPs have suffered so many disappointments and sentimental betrayals that they have understood that the only way to escape drama mode and stop missing the people who broke up with them is to become someone different: someone better.
You don’t miss the person who broke up with you; you miss the person you were by their side. Reread it.
When you update your personality and become a 2.0 version of yourself, you stop missing the person who left because you don’t want to be who you once were.
Lesson: When you get your heart broken, become a much better version of yourself, and you will stop missing your ex because you will never want to be who you were again.
4. Some people tell you the truth to lie to you.
This is a lesson that only SSPs know because it is too subtle and Machiavellian for anyone to see if they have yet to experience it firsthand.
In life, you will meet people who tell you the truth about something ugly about their character so that you will self-deceive yourself into believing you can change them.
They do it at the beginning of relationships, where hormones blind your mind.
And then, when they misbehave with you, they tell you, “I already warned you that you won’t fall in love with me, that everything I touch, I make shit.”
And in these ways, they make you responsible for having trusted them. And you end up being the bad guy.
Lesson: Be careful with people who tell you ugly things about themselves at the beginning of the relationship because they do it so that you lie to yourself and justify them later on.
A virtual hug
AG
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