It’s time to reveal my secrets.
Seeing so many people without hope is exhausting. And even more so when you’ve been through it and you feel empathy for your fellow man 🙂
I hit rock bottom when I was 33; it’s been ten years since then. Taking stock, I realized that I got out of the shit when I learned to listen to what the universe wanted to tell me.
My job in this article is to share the three lessons the universe taught me in the worst moments of my life so that you can recover your smile and hope for a better future.
1. The more you edit the draft of your ideal life mentally, the less it costs to make it real.
“If you can see it in your mind and dare to speak it, it will happen.” — Conor McGregor
The law of attraction is real.
Michael Phelps knows it, Usain Bolt knows it, Oprah knows it, even Jim freaking Carrey knows it.
And I, who had an ego the size of the Titanic (that’s why my life ended up shipwrecked), believed that they were wrong and I (a nobody) was right.
I was a cynic who didn’t believe in the law of attraction. It’s normal when you turn on the TV and watch the news.
- “Extreme polarization poisons the world and tears families apart.”
- “The world will end before the end of the century if the temperature continues to rise.”
- “With the 6.8 Mw magnitude earthquake in Morocco, thousands of families lost everything” (My father was in Marrakech when it happened).
In short, you can turn on the TV, watch the latest natural disaster leaving thousands of people homeless thousands of miles from where you live, and think, “It all sucks.”
Or you can empathize with those people and help them.
For the first, you need a couch and a desire to yell at the TV.
For the second, you need money and a good heart.
Ergo, being a cynic is more accessible than being generous and doing something for others.
To be able to help others, you have to BE ABLE TO HELP THEM. And that is incompatible with thinking that everything sucks, that you’re screwed, and that you can’t prosper.
So the best thing for you and the world is to prosper. And this is where the law of attraction comes in: if you cannot imagine a better life, you won’t have it.
That’s why it’s important to visualize. By training your imagination, you are telling your brain what you want. And the brain will start looking for the solution to the Rubik’s cube that your life has become until you achieve the goal you visualize.
It works. And you don’t have to be Oprah to see the results.
It worked for me, and from being broke, sleeping on the floor of a room in a shared apartment with five people, I ended up publishing two books, having thousands of readers worldwide, and reconciling with my family.
So if I, who am clumsier than an elephant trying to keep quiet in a tambourine store, can make the law of attraction work, anyone can.
2. Naivety is a trap
“Part of me suspects I’m a loser and the other I’m God Almighty.” — John Lennon
The ego becomes more subtle as you evolve spiritually.
At first, you want to be the f*cking master, and that kind of ego eventually dissolves when reality pushes you against the wall and whispers in your ear, “Who’s your daddy?”.
If you are humble and learn the lesson, things improve for a while.
But, the ego always uses new weapons to survive.
One of them is a very particular kind of naivety that makes you believe that you can measure up in everything you do. This way, you lose focus, and the window of opportunity closes on the things you were doing that worked for you.
For example, “You start doing TikToks when doing great articles.”
Overnight, I started to have mini-videos with millions of views and over a hundred thousand followers. But that took me away from what worked for me: writing.
Moral: The ego wants everything when things go well to sabotage your success.
Don’t be naive and let yourself be fooled by the ego’s crude attempts at seduction, and dedicate yourself to what works for you. And when it stops working for you, if you want try new things, but not before.
3. The straight line is the minimum distance between points A and B.
“Anger does not allow us to know what we do and still less what we say.” — Arthur Schopenhauer
The other day, a reader from India asked me the following question
I love the idea of finding success that brings inner peace. Your journey to self-discovery is inspiring. What’s your key to maintaining inner peace daily?
I answered him as follows
“Always keep in mind that the less reactive you are, the better decisions you make. And the better decisions you make, the better quality of life you get. That’s what inspires me to keep inner peace: it’s the most practical thing you can do if you want to improve your quality of life.”
I answered him that because my Achilles’ heel ten years ago was anger. I was the typical paranoid conspiracy guy. I used to think the whole world was against me.
When I stopped thinking like that, my life got better.
The most powerful lesson the universe has taught me over the last ten years has been to simplify things.
When you are f*cked (point A), the best thing you can do to be well (point B) is to focus on your Achilles’ heel (that’s the shortest way between point A and point B).
In my case, my Achilles’ heel was anger. My life changed completely when I focused on being less reactive than mixing Coke with Mentos.
That was my shortest path between point A (a life entirely of pain) and point B (a reasonably happy life).
Probably, your Achilles’ heel is another one, but if you focus on improving that aspect of your life, the rest of your reality will undergo a powerful domino effect that will change your reality altogether.
A virtual hug
AG
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