#2. Not all your friends are good friends.
In the University of Life, there are no exams that can certify your level.
Lessons are learned the hard way. The best teacher is usually a strict guy named Mr. Pain, and repeating a course usually costs much more than money.
Here are three of the lessons you only learned if you are a graduate of the University of Life.
1. We are not addicted to people but to the person we were one day with someone.
To that third brain that was formed in the relationship.
To that stage of life that one day was and will never return.
To the tragic certainty and its consolation. Because routine covers us like a thick blanket that, on the one hand, takes away the cold but, on the other, numbs us.
And the fact is that there are not only soul mates; there are also jail mates.
People with whom we lock ourselves in our comfort zone, even if the relationship is uncomfortable.
This is something you only discover after years of breaking up with someone.
It’s not just co-dependency that makes you dependent, but nostalgia and romanticizing the past.
Note: you can’t go back to the past. And even if you could, it wouldn’t be the same because now you know too much and would try to modify it and condition the relationship, which wouldn’t feel authentic.
2. Not all your friends are good friends
Everyone knows how to identify an enemy, but you have to have a lot of streets to discover a friend who often thinks they are your friend but is not.
There are not only toxic couples; there are also friendships more harmful than drinking bleach through a straw.
People who constantly remind you of your problems because by alerting you to them, they always become relevant.
I call them bad-news friends because they are in the business of fear; they try to flood your life with bad news to grab your attention so that you are always aware of them and their information.
These people want to control your perception of reality.
They intend to isolate and possess you, and they have no good intentions even though they believe they have good intentions because bad-news friends are selfish and, like a news presenter, do not want you to change the channel.
3. Loss highlights people’s virtues
Death or the end of something always highlights the good things that we did not appreciate at the time.
Absence highlights those benefits we have lost and did not know we had.
It is when things end that we see their advantages; when we are immersed in them, we only notice the disadvantages.
Perhaps the hardest lesson the Universe of Life teaches you is that sooner or later, you will lose everything you have: family, friends, work, health, and youth.
Time is a thief that ends up taking everything away.
That is why gratitude is fundamental.
Gratitude helps us recognize the good things in life before we lose them. And also avoid what I call “emotional old age.”
Emotional old age starts at that moment in life when we begin to lose hope and desire. That moment when we do not believe that the world can get better. That moment when our sweet innocence turns into bitter cynicism.
Don’t let it; be grateful, and smile.
A virtual hug
AG
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