First step: Identify the problems

The first thing you have to do to make better decisions is to know how to identify the problems you currently have in your life.

I went through a depression that lasted several years, and I didn’t know what was wrong with me: my girlfriend hadn’t left me (yet), I had a good job, good friends, and so on.

But someone told me about transcendental meditation, and I started practicing it.

Six months later, I realized (and that was the key) that I was sleeping 4 hours, eating poorly, and abusing caffeine, alcohol, and tobacco.

It seems logical that if you eat poorly, sleep little, and abuse stimulants, you can suffer from depression, but I didn’t see it.

I wasn’t aware.

I was living in zombie mode without thinking about my problems.

Meditating helped me to distance myself and see my life in perspective.

Second step: Increase your alternatives

You live under the hyperstimulation of your senses.

Everyone wants your time and attention, so they appeal to your primal instincts.

Get away from this constant manipulation so you can think for yourself.

The trees keep you from seeing the forest.

You have problems like everyone else, but you need to distance yourself.

If you don’t, you will only find the solutions society wants to sell you.

You need to analyze your data before you know where to invest your time, money, and resources.

Then, focus on getting as many alternatives as possible to solve your identified problems.

There is usually more than one solution to each problem. Please don’t get hung up on finding the perfect one; look for several, then choose among them.

Third step: Discuss your options with your group of wise men.

The problem with asking for advice is not asking the right person.

Meet with people who have already been through where you are about to go.

Consulting people with practical knowledge about your problem will help you choose the best solution.

Get used to seeking different opinions.

(The problem is that we only seek out those opinions we want to hear, and that’s not opinion but validation 🙂

Fourth step: Compare it with your reality.

Now it’s time to ask yourself if your decision fits your lifestyle.

Not all solutions fit all people.

You will have values and ideologies that oppose certain things.

Your decisions have to be aligned with your values, or even if you solve your problems, you will always be miserable.

And you don’t want to live bitter, do you?

Summary

Step one: Know how to identify problems.

Step two: Increase your alternatives.

Step three: Discuss your options with your group of wise men.

Step four: Compare it with your reality.

A virtual hug

AG