Are You Making One of These 4 Mistakes When it Comes to being Happy?

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I have a confession to make.

I’m not happy all the time.

And I know you don’t either. You wake up in the morning wanting to eat the world, and it’s the world that consumes you.

It sucks.

It seems inevitable that the days go wrong, and we end up spending the day bitter. And we get home and even find sleeping hard because of our discomfort.

The problem is that if we get up at three in the morning and can’t sleep, guess what?

The next day you have another crappy day.

In this article, I want to talk about four things to avoid if you want your day to be happy, and when you get home, you can rest.

Let’s start

Using the F*cking Phone Too Much

Smartphone overuse is the first mistake we must avoid to have a happy day.

It is a beautiful tool but can also be a cruel master. Every new notification on your screen is like a whiplash telling you, “You are my slave.”

You have to control your phone, not the other way around.

Avoid using it until there is an excellent reason to do so when you wake up. Instead, try to have breakfast, savoring the food and without technology.

When you go to the gym or jogging, take it with you but put it on airplane mode so your boss can’t reach you and make your leisure time bitter.

At night, a couple of hours before bed, avoid exposing yourself to blue light from any screen: phone, computer, television.

This makes your melatonin levels (the primary hormone regulating the oscillation between sleep and wakefulness) acceptable.

Do this, and you will sleep like a baby.

Not Investing in Your Self-Esteem

If your self-esteem goes down, your worry goes up. And concern scares away happiness.

When you don’t have self-esteem, you value yourself very little, and you start having thoughts like,

  • I’m going to get fired.
  • My girlfriend is going to leave me.
  • My kids don’t love me.
  • [Insert your favorite fear here]

Want to worry less? Love yourself more.

And the best way to love yourself more is to do things that raise your self-esteem. And stop thinking it won’t work because let me tell you something: it will.

Dieting and exercising make you lose weight, whether you believe in it or not: it’s science. And science trumps belief.

So, do things that increase your self-esteem, and it will increase your self-esteem.

  • Stop beating yourself up.
  • Start thinking positively.
  • Do sports.
  • Stop eating junk food.
  • Set realistic goals and achieve them.
  • Accept and forgive yourself for your failures.
  • Treat yourself with love and respect.
  • Give yourself quality time.

Do it, and you will attract happiness like a magnet.

Being a Drama King

Or a drama queen, my sweet pie.

Not only does talking about yourself all day long drive happiness away faster than a sweaty sock to anyone who comes near you, but it also drives your friends away.

Get this in your head,

The secret of friendship is a dialogue, not a monologue.

To be happy, you need to be sociable and maintain quality personal relationships with the people around you (unless you’re a hermit 🙂

And for that, you have to learn to listen to others.

You are not the only person in the world with problems.

Spoiler alert!

We all have problems.

Quid pro quo, amigo. Today for you, tomorrow for me. There has to be reciprocity. You scratch my back; I’ll scratch your back.

So stop being a dick and calling your friends only when you want them to hear your problems so you can listen to yourself out loud.

Care about the people around you: call them, and even if they haven’t asked you for help, take an interest in them and ask them if they need anything. And if they need your help, help them. Helping others is the fastest way to happiness.

Playing Batman

You are not Bruce Wayne. Face it.

You are not a billionaire businessman, heartthrob, and philanthropist who witnessed the murder of his parents as a child, which led him to seek revenge by fighting crime.

So stop playing Batman. Let go of resentment. Because resentment and happiness are like oil and vinegar, they can’t mix.

You can’t be happy by hating.

You have to learn to let go of all that pain you carry. Because let me say something: when someone hurts you, if the pain stays with you, it hurts you twice.

  • Please don’t allow it.
  • Get over that breakup.
  • Get over the betrayal of that friend.
  • Get over that bad relationship you have with your parents.

I am not telling you to have lunch with your ex a bad friend, or even make peace with your parents. I say to forgive them in your mind and move on with your life.

Please don’t do it for them but for your mental health and happiness.

Reminder For Memory

  • Reduce phone use, especially in the morning, while exercising, and a couple of hours before bed.
  • Invest your time every day in activities that boost your self-esteem.
  • Leave drama aside and learn to listen. Try to help others even if they don’t ask for help.
  • Free yourself from the pain that resentment generates. Let go of the stone of hatred because it weighs tons.

A virtual hug


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