1. Excessive Criticism
Criticism and negative comments lower your energy and cause the person giving it to monopolize your attention.
So the next time you receive supposedly constructive criticism about something good you’ve accomplished, ask yourself two things.
- Does this person want me to improve, or do they want to lower my energy and hog my attention?
- Is this person constantly criticizing me, or is it a one-time thing?
If you notice that the person who criticizes you does it every time and tells you that they do it for your own good so that you will improve, don’t believe it.
There is a pattern of manipulation, and I advise you to be careful.
Don’t fall into their game because they will never tell you that you have done one hundred percent well, and they will hypnotize you with criticism to turn you into a junkie looking for approval.
2. You want to think about something other than the future.
You avoid thinking about the future.
You try to convince yourself that living in the here and now is important. But deep down, you hide from the truth.
You don’t ask yourself the essential questions,
Will they take care of me if I get sick?
Will they grow old by my side?
Will they help me if I am doing badly financially?
If the answer is no, you are not in the right place; that person is unsuitable.
Take off the blindfold.
Please don’t do it because I tell you to; do it because your future self will thank you.
Think about the person you will be in twenty or thirty years and honor her by doing the right thing: exercising, eating healthy, saving for retirement, and staying away from people who will sooner or later leave you stranded 😉
3. You feel indebted
Beware if you are close to people who always throw the things they did for you in your face.
And especially those who, over time, distort reality, enlarging it in their favor.
Those who lend you a hundred dollars, and after a while, they have pulled you out of ruin, and you owe them your life.
Those people do not remind you that they helped you to value their friendship but to make you feel inferior and indebted.
I know it’s politically incorrect, but it’s the truth.
If your friend needs to pin a medal on himself for helping you, he’s not your friend; he’s a narcissist who wants constant recognition.
Do yourself a favor, and don’t ask for favors from this type of person.
4. You don’t want anyone to know.
If you have a friend, partner, or acquaintance with whom you don’t like to be seen. It’s because you know that, sooner or later, someone will point the finger at you.
And they won’t do it to laugh at you, but to warn you about that person.
Those who love you well can’t keep quiet while you throw your life away. So if you hide that person from them, something is wrong.
You also have to be careful if that person is gradually isolating and alienating you from the rest of your environment.
Predators isolate their prey before eating them; don’t forget that, little gazelle.
A virtual hug