How to Use Indifference to Change Your Life for the Better

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If you aim to get rich by buying unnecessary things, you better stop reading this article and grow up.

Life is much more than money. When you die, you cannot take anything from this world, not even your brand-new Tesla.

On the contrary, if what you want is to lead a happy, dignified, and healthy life that doesn’t involve getting wealthy like the Wolf of Wall Street at the expense of the rest of the world, keep reading 😉

Step one: Choose a life purpose wisely

The problem with goals is that you will need help getting it right.

It’s like that vacation you were so excited about, and when you get to your destination, the hotel isn’t like the pictures; the beach is crowded, the city is dirty, and everything is overpriced.

That’s how a poorly chosen dream fulfilled feels: like a fraud.

But how do we find a valid objective so this does not happen to us?

The truth is that it is pretty simple. So you have to comply with the hand rule (I call it that way because there are five points, like the fingers of your hand).

Rule of the hand

  1. You are good at it.
  2. You are passionate about it.
  3. It allows you to make a living from it.
  4. It’s good for you.
  5. It’s good for others.

Why does your life purpose have to meet these points?

  • Because if you are not good at it, you will not be able to compete.
  • Because if you are not passionate about it, you will not be able to dedicate yourself to it in the long term because sooner or later, you will get bored and give up.
  • Because if it doesn’t make you money, you won’t be able to spend the time necessary to become the best in your sector.
  • Because if it doesn’t make you happy, it’s not good for you. What’s the point of success if you end up hooked on antidepressants?
  • Because if it’s not good for society, you’ll end up in jail, on the sidelines, or bankrupt.

The famous writer Robert Greene, the author of The 48 Laws of Power, recommends that you look back on your childhood for those activities in which you were good and made you happy.

I’m sure you will find a purpose that fulfills the rule of the hand.

In my case, I was good at history, and I was passionate about literature. Vualá! I’m a writer, and I make a living from it.

Now it’s your turn: return to your earliest childhood and find your purpose.

Step 2: I have the purpose. Now what?

Now, the first thing you need to do is to understand this quote from the famous memory coach Jim Kwik,

Your brain is a supercomputer, and your inner monologue is a running program. So if you tell yourself that you’re not good at remembering names, you won’t remember the name of the next person you meet because you program your supercomputer not to. That’s why I think your internal chatter is essential: it’s the program that we run. And I tell people to keep it positive and empowered because your mind is always listening to your chatter.

In the words of Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or not, either way, you’ll be right.”

You need to wise up and avoid people who don’t believe in you because they are far more dangerous to your life than you think.

Engrave this in your heart,

“With their criticism, people are not advising you: they are programming you to be a loser.”

The same is done by the news, scaring you, advertising making you feel fat or mediocre to make you try to gain self-esteem by buying their products.

Summarizing: Once you have your life purpose, the next step is to tune the instrument so that the melody sounds good. That is, change what you say to yourself to maximize the results.

You can do what you set out to do. And if you don’t think you can do it, don’t despair; read this carefully because it is the most important thing you will read today,

“Your mind is like an algorithm that continually reprograms itself by adding information.”

If you are sad, you watch humorous monologues, and your mind is content.

If you think you don’t have the right mindset to undertake your purpose, start consuming videos, books, mentors, and all kinds of information that reprogram your algorithm.

Step three: use your indifference as a superpower.

Once you have your life purpose and the right mindset, the game is reduced to not being distracted from your path.

Indifference is not that you don’t care about anything; you know what matters to you and remove yourself from all other distractions.

You are like a sports shooter who shoots a bullet that aims to hit the center of a target; your priority objective is that nothing disturbs you, that your pulse does not tremble when you shoot, and that nothing diverts you.

And make no mistake, any change in your shot, no matter how small, will divert you from the center of your target.

One degree of deviation may not even hit the periphery of that target.

And this is where the efficient management of indifference comes in so that nothing distracts you and diverts your shot.

Here are the three types of indifference you must practice to hit your target.

Types of indifference

  • Media Indifference

Do yourself a favor, turn off the TV, and avoid anything that detracts from your power and initiative.

I know the world is terrible. But you’re not going to change anything by moaning on your couch.

You must understand that even the good Samaritan had to have money to help the beggar.

And I’m not telling you to forget your ethical commitment to the world. On the contrary, I ask you to do what no one else does: mind your business and trust that everyone is an adult and does their job.

You have another job if you are not a politician, journalist, etc.. And you have to focus on that task to be beneficial to society.

If we dedicate ourselves to being indifferent to the fear that the media constantly wants to inoculate us with and focus on improving 1% daily, things will improve.

  • Social indifference

I will be brief.

You have to be indifferent to criticism.

But not only to criticism. Also, you must be indifferent to compliments because if you fall into complacency, you will stay caught up and miss your window of opportunity.

How many people are on the verge of achieving their dream, and when they get a little fame or notoriety, they get sidetracked and fail?

Don’t be one of them. Focus on your business. And detach yourself from criticism but also compliments.

  • Emotional indifference

You have to forget about your “supposed” moral or emotional debts. As you succeed, people will demand things from you: money, favors, time, and attention.

Don’t give in to your friends and family.

People use your position to condition you emotionally and make you comply with their demands. You cannot use your new place to favor the whims of others when you do not even allow yourself to do so to achieve your goal.


Tattoo this on your mind:

  • Not everyone can like you.
  • Not everyone has to like you.
  • Not everyone has to like you.
  • Only some people can go along with you.

In life, you must let go of your backpack and walk lightly.

And remember that it is normal to feel lonely on the road to success because, as an old Tibetan Sherpa once said,

The way to the top is always uphill, so you feel tired.

The higher you climb, the more people drop out; you feel lonely.

Few make it to the top; that’s why you feel lost.

But remember that it’s normal to feel this way because you are the one who leads the way.

A virtual hug


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