#3. You discovered social interactions are like sales.
Smart people don’t say they are smart.
They make you think they’re dumb, so they can watch and listen to get the upper hand.
It’s the same with mentally strong people: they have nothing to prove.
They know they are emotionally wise and exceptionally resilient. But they keep it a secret, so people don’t take advantage.
However, some subtle clues indicate whether a person is mentally strong that cannot be faked.
They have to do with their mindset, philosophy of life, and way of approaching things from entirely different angles than the average person.
Here are three of those signs.
(Who knows, maybe you are one of those people 🙂
1. You Stop romanticizing your beliefs
“If you play the same game everyone else does, you’ll get the same results everyone else does (mediocre).” —Alex Hormozi (Book: $100M Offers)
When you’re a mentally strong person, you choose your beliefs. You stop thinking like everybody else just to fit in with the crew. You don’t behave like the herd anymore. You’re not a sheep anymore; you become a wolf.
And you are okay with it because, as Jordan Petterson said, “you should be a monster and then learn how to control it.”
Mentally strong people know that what brought them here will not take them any further. And because of that, they readapt their beliefs.
Here are the main beliefs mentally strong people update to achieve the next step of success.
- Money isn’t a bad thing per se… Money in the wrong hands is.
- Power isn’t a bad thing per se… Power in the wrong hands is.
- Leadership isn’t a bad thing per se… Leadership in the wrong hands is.
When you’re a mentally strong person, you face all your mental weaknesses and rewire your brain.
When you become a mentally strong person, you have morals and values, but you choose practical beliefs over debilitating beliefs because you know that if a belief doesn’t serve you, you have to change it to thrive.
As Benjamin Hardy says in his book, Personality Isn’t Permanent, “You become who you choose to be.”
2. You stop being naive about relationships
“They’d had to begin all over again as if the life they led before didn’t count.” — Souvankham Thammavongsa (Book: How to Pronounce Knife)
Mentally strong people no longer put their hands in the fire for anyone. They know that in a changing world, everything is ephemeral. And they are okay with that.
They don’t make drama. Instead, relationships go through their cycle like everything else in life: they are born, they grow, and they end.
Mentally strong people know that the important thing is the journey.
Good friends can cease to be a good friends for many reasons
- Because they die.
- Because they change their place of residence.
- Because they are on a different page of the book of life.
- Because you suddenly have different interests.
- Because they got married, felt betrayed, etc.
But that does not imply that while the relationship lasted, it was not true.
Mentally strong people have learned that attachment to things and people hurts much more than compensates. Because of that, they embrace change and live their lives with open doors to let people come and go.
3. You discovered social interactions are like sales
“Often, when we are exhausted by dead-end positions, meaningless relationships, and indifferent environments, we are forced to change our lives for the better.” — T. D. Jakes (Book: Soar)
When you are mentally strong, you have been through so many disappointments that you eventually learn how the social game works.
Healthy relationships work like sales. And mentally strong people know this.
In sales, you exchange value for products or services for money.
In relationships, you exchange friendship, collaboration, loyalty, love, etc., for attention and quality time.
If in the world of sales, the supplier delivers the product or service and the customer does not pay, what happens is theft.
If a person gives his love, friendship, commitment, etc. to another in social interactions, and the other party does not pay attention but wants all the love he was given, IT IS ALSO THEFT.
On the other hand,
If the customer pays but does not receive the agreed product or service in the sales world, what happens is a scam.
If, in the world of social interactions, a person gives you his time and attention and the other party does not provide him with love, friendship, etc., but keeps the attention and time received, IT IS A SCAM.
And consequently, mentally strong people have reached a point in their lives where they understand the value of RECIPROCITY.
If it is not reciprocal, there is no healthy relationship possible. And you have to cancel that relationship, heal the wound, and move on.
A virtual hug
AG
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