Learn from my mistakes and save yourself time and heartache.
The new definition of wisdom is humility.
The humility of admitting that you were wrong. And I was wrong in a ton of things along the way.
Here are 3 of the biggest things I used to think were true but not.
Let’s dive in.
1. Believe me better than the rest
When you are young, you think you will never grow old.
Spoiler: it’s not true.
When I was twenty, I felt like Leonardo DiCaprio shouting, “I am the king of the world” in Titanic.
Later, I discovered the harsh truth: I’m not the king of nothing.
During those years, I learned some tricks to going on. But the game of life upgrades the level of difficulty every season. So, when I go outside my house, I never forget three things,
- There are a bunch of jerks in the world. These people are dangerous because they don’t see the consequences of their acts.
- There are many people smarter than me out there pretending to be dumber to gain an advantage over others.
- I know that 20 years from now, I’ll look back and realize how dumb I am. (The same thing happens to me when I think of my twenty-year-old self now that I am forty)
The takeaway: never think you are more intelligent than anyone else because 1) you never know if someone is more intelligent than you, 2) because ignorant people are dangerous and can be offended and bring you a lot of trouble, and 3) because probably you will realize how dumb you were in 2022 if you live for 2042 🙂
2. Surrounding yourself with losers is for losers.
I used to believe it was true, but I regret it very much today because I know the truth.
Let me explain it,
Many people (myself included) hold the five-person theory: your energy is the average of the five people you frequent the most.
And it’s true. You even have to stay away from toxic people to evolve.
But, when you have evolved and become strong, don’t forget The United States Marine Corps motto, “Until they are home, no man left behind.”
In other words, don’t forget those who need you.
- What would the alcoholic be without the AA program?
- What would the bullied person be without the help of people who have gone through it and are now free from physical and psychological abuse?
- What would the financially and emotionally ruined person be without the books, courses, and advice of those in that situation, and who came out ahead?
I want to be very specific with this because many people on social networks behave like Andrew Tate, encouraging people to abandon losers.
And those who do that are not winners; they are miserable.
The takeaway: If you want to succeed with your business, you have to dedicate yourself to the “supposed losers” because they are the ones who need your products and services to improve. (The winner does not require you.)
And never forget these two things.
- No losers (people with needs or problems) to help = No money to win.
- The only people without needs or problems are in the graveyard. If you are alive, you have issues to solve (and that doesn’t make you a loser.)
3. Money = Happiness
I always thought that money could make you happier.
Big mistake.
If I could return to my twenties, I would say to my former self,
Depression also travels by private jet.
Stress also wears Gucci and Prada.
Despair also lives in the most expensive Manhattan penthouses.
Neither fame nor money nor status will make you happy, helping others will.
It’s not “having money” that will make you happy.; it’s with whom you spend it. It’s how much you help with it.
Money is power, the power to change the life of others for the better, but you need to have the intention of using it wisely.
You will die someday, and you won’t be able to take the Lambos, or the mansion, to heaven. But you can leave a legacy in this world.
The takeaway: we are social beings; we need each other. Think of a world you live alone in. That world is a nightmare. You have to 1) feel helpful and 2) be loved and appreciated by other humans. That’s what it’s all about.
A virtual hug
AG
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