Your greatest enemy is within you.
The problem with a lack of self-esteem is that although it originates outside of you, it perpetuates itself within you.
It is your negative thoughts that feed that darkness.
And you do it by living in the past, by returning to that situation that hurt you. You do it by not processing what happened. You do it by dwelling on the same thing over and over again. So you do it by not believing you are enough.
You are enough. You are valuable; that’s why they often pick on you.
Because they’re scared of your capabilities and afraid of competition.
But don’t do the dirty work for your external enemies by becoming your executioner.
Stop holding the frying pan on the side that burns. Detach yourself from that negativity. And regain your center.
Stop being your own worst enemy
You are your worst enemy when you allow others’ opinions of you to be more important than your own.
You are your worst enemy when instead of facing problems and learning from them, you bury your head in the sand.
You are your own worst enemy when, with the excuse of being demanding and perfectionist, you are self-flagellating and too hard on yourself.
You are your worst enemy when you neglect yourself to help others.
And no, it is not selfish to take care of yourself first. What is selfish is not to do so.
Because if you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to help others.
How to reconcile with yourself
You have to realize that you have become your own greatest enemy.
You must realize that most of the things you want and don’t get are because of your self-sabotage.
You have to realize that you are limiting yourself.
And most importantly, you have to realize that being a victim and an executioner at the same time is what has you scattered.
Once you realize that it is you that is separating you from your goals, everything will change because there can be no darkness when there is light.
Shine your awareness of the problem, and you will begin to heal.
Give yourself time and space
Don’t pretend to go from being your worst enemy to your best friend overnight.
Like all worthwhile things in life, it will take time.
You can’t just wipe the slate clean. It doesn’t work that way.
You have a lot of debts to settle yourself.
And your subconscious has to see that you have changed. That it’s not just pretty words in front of the mirror.
The key is self-esteem
A gesture is worth a thousand words. And you know it.
That’s why I propose that, step by step, you begin to grant yourself the excellent treatment you deserve. The rest is a matter of time.
Because just as you can’t go on a diet and go to the gym and not improve your health, you can’t start to respect yourself and not improve your self-esteem.
So, the first thing is to realize that you are so hard on yourself that you have become your enemy.
The second thing is to make peace with yourself by respecting your time and space.
And the third thing is to initiate actions that will improve your self-esteem proactively.
Do this, and be consistent, and you will defeat the bully in you.
A virtual hug
AG
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