Because life is not all sunsets and margaritas on the beach.
Have you realized that we do weird things when we get hurt?
We change our hairstyle to a fancy one.
We go to the gym to get revenge body.
We tattoo our skin to feel that we are the phoenix that rose from the ashes.
But nothing of that fixes the problem.
There are at least three best ways to do it.
1. Stop outsourcing your happiness
You are the CEO of your own reality. And you have to stop externalizing the vital parts of that life, for example, happiness.
You MUST stop outsourcing your happiness. You can’t make anyone or anything responsible for your inner peace. It’s a terrible decision to depend on someone or something else to feel OK inside your skin.
It’s not fair for your loved ones, and It’s not fair for your inner child; the one who lives inside yourself, and you forget too often.
Your inner child has needs to fulfill. Your inner child believes in you. And it would be best if you took care of their desires.
You are the adult in charge.
Became the father of your inner child and embrace the responsibility for your happiness as you assume responsibility for your success.
2. Really move on
The best thing to do when your world is in ruins is to find bricks and rebuild your empire.
No one will feel sorry for you more than you (read that again) because everybody goes to sleep with their own problems at the end of the day.
So it is up to you to repair the damage and compensate your losses.
You can do better, and you know it.
Quit the victim mindset, quit the mental bullsh*t, quit the excuses, quit the looser mentality, and quit your emotional self-sabotage.
But more importantly, change the toxic environment you are in.
Go to find new people. Meet a group of people tired of losing, a group of people who want to win. Because, you know, “Monkey see, monkey do.”
And as my grandfather used to say, “tell me who you walk next to, and I will tell you where you go.”
Move on literally means MOVE ON. Not… stay stuck with your old toxic folks and their destructive behaviors.
Move on. It’s not about making the same mistakes but finding an exit from hell and finding the heaven you deserve.
3. Charges the battery
Stop blaming others for your situation. But, also stop giving others your energy.
The best part of being dumped is to stop putting up with that someone. And this doesn’t just apply to relationships; it applies to job layoffs, friend betrayals, and family fights.
When someone screws you over and leaves you in the shit, you don’t have to blame them for your situation. You have to take responsibility and move on. But you don’t have to be dumb, either.
You don’t have to keep explaining yourself to that person who broke your heart.
You don’t have to keep giving up your life for that boss who didn’t care that you were left without health insurance.
You don’t have to keep taking phone calls from that friend who betrayed you.
You don’t have to explain to anyone what you do with your life. And that gives you back your energy.
Give yourself some time and recharge your batteries.
You will see how good it feels to live without explaining your life to anyone and without having to do favors for others.
Whatever energy you have left over, invest it in yourself. And you will get out of the hole, I assure you.
Give it a try, and if none of the above work, you’ll always have time to cut your hair like a punk Mohican, sign up for CrossFit, and tattoo your whole body like a Yakuza member or a Scottish sailor 😉
A virtual hug
AG
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