Perhaps the best advice that life has ever given me.
Being F*cked Up Doesn’t Give You the Right to F*ck Up Others.
You have the right to cry, but you don’t have the right to make other people cry.
You have the right to feel like a piece of sh*t, but you don’t have the right to be a shitty person with your loved ones.
You have the right to quit fighting, but you don’t have the right to steal the hope of the people who try to make you smile.
Your friend’s happiness isn’t the reason for your unhappiness.
Your friend’s success isn’t the reason for your bad luck.
Your friend’s good news isn’t mean that your life is a complete failure.
It isn’t.
When you realize that projecting your miseries on others does not make things better but worse, you understand that if you keep blaming everyone else for your situation and trying to make them feel bad for feeling good when you are wrong, you will end up alone.
What you can do
As Marcus Aurelius said, “Eliminate the opinion, and you have eliminated the feeling of “I have been hurt”; eliminate the “I have been hurt,” and you have eliminated the hurt.”
Eliminate the mistaken opinion that life has something against you. And you will eliminate the feeling of bad luck. And by removing the feeling of bad luck, you will have eliminated bad luck 🙂
Eliminate the mistaken opinion that the happiness of your friends is the reason for your unhappiness. And by removing the feeling that people laugh at you, you will have destroyed that feeling of inferiority that makes you mistreat others.
You have to realize the reality.
Maybe your life isn’t perfect enough to take selfies and share them on your social feed.
Maybe you are not in your best moment.
But you are not a loser because everybody’s life seems better than yours.
And as the old wise people of my neighborhood used to say, “Happiness goes by streets, but so does sorrow. And today, you may find joy, but tomorrow you may find misfortune.”
That is to say, that life is made of cycles. Sometimes you go up, and sometimes you are down. Today bad things happen to me, tomorrow to you. Nobody it’s free from that, mate.
The key to living a good life is knowing when to stop blaming others for your pains. Everybody suffers, my friend.
Life taught me not to mistreat people when I’m bad
You have the right to be hurt when life hits you. But don’t think everyone is putting their finger on your wound to make you suffer more. They don’t.
What happens is that life goes on, and fortunately, good things happen to people, even if bad things happen to you. And that doesn’t have to make you feel more bitter.
On the contrary, It has to make you feel that you can, that there is hope, and that the sun still shines behind the clouds, no matter how hard the storm is. So it has to make you feel it will be your turn one day.
Because as my grandfather used to say, “No evil lasts a hundred years, neither a body that can stand it.”
A virtual hug
AG
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