Alberto García 🚀🚀🚀

Learn from one of the wisest persons of all time.

The fish dies by the mouth. And It’s the same in life.

As the Epictetus used to say, “we have two ears to hear twice as much before we speak.”

But we find it very hard to keep it in mind, and in the end, our big mouth gets us into all sorts of trouble.

It always happened to me until I found and reflected on a magic quote from Rumi.

The magic quote

“O tongue, you are a treasure without measure. O tongue, you are eternal sickness.” — Rumi.

This phrase of the Sufi poet is magical because when you reflect on them, you understand the power of communication.

Words are spells, and we can better or ruin our life by using them.

And not only by using them with others: using them with us; how we treat or mistreat ourselves is vital to understanding our success or failure.

As Joe Dispenza said once, “You could have the best diet; you could eat gluten-free, vegan, ketogenic, intermittent fasting with a little macrobiotics on the side; you could do your workout, you could run, you could do pilates, you could do yoga. But it doesn’t matter if you haven’t taken care of your responses to everyone and everything in your life.”

For Joe, communicating with your inner self and with others is fundamental to escaping the fear trap that leads us to raise stress levels—and going back to Rumi, Stress = Sickness.

So poor communication leads us to face more fear, more conflict, and more stress, and that leads us to illness.

Your new mantra

“Bad communication leads us to illness.”

Keep it in mind, and your life will change forever because you’ll face life with a different point of view, free of guilt.

You won’t feel bad again because you didn’t argue with your boss. Because poor communication leads to arguments, which generates stress and ends up screwing up your health. So you didn’t argue for fear of your boss, but to avoid weakening your immune system.

And on the other hand, you won’t torture yourself mentally for not arguing because you will be aware that being hard on yourself also causes discomfort and stress, lowering your defenses.

Engrave this in your heart.

Nothing and no one worthwhile can justify losing your health at risk.

If your job costs you your health, remember that it is better to lose it than lose yourself.

If your relationship costs you your health, remember that it is better to break up than lose yuourself

If your family costs you your health, remember that if you have a heart attack and die, you will never see them again. So it is better to limit yourself to having just enough contact with those people (family or not) who can make your life miserable because it costs your health.

And your health comes first.

Last words

• Does this mean I must quit my job if I argue with my boss?

No. It means you don’t have to be so affected by what your boss says, let alone take it personally and torture yourself.

• Does this mean I must leave my partner if we argue a lot?

No. It means that you must make your partner understand that there are limits that they must not cross if they want your well-being because your well-being is also part of their well-being.

• Does this mean I must cut off my relationship with my mother-in-law or family members with whom I am on bad terms?

No. It means you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, and you don’t have to feel guilty about not going to a family event if you know you constantly get screwed afterward.

Words can be medicine for the soul, or tequila shots, leaving you with the worst hangovers. The trick is to use them wisely and avoid people who use language to hurt you.

A virtual hug

AG