Do yourself a favor: stop getting attached to these three things.
Clinging to things has its advantages. But like coins, it has two sides.
The b-side of attachment is jealousy, obsession, pain, guilt, longing, depression, living death, and all those things that make you call your ex at 3 AM and hang up as if doing so will not reflect the call.
Attachment makes us make many mistakes, like staying stuck in the same cycle spinning more times than a washing machine spinning.
That’s why you have to learn to let go little by little of everything that keeps you anchored to the past; as the saying goes, “The past is history, and the future is a mystery.”
Go for the mystery, and your life will stop being boring 🙂
And for that, stop getting attached to these three things.
1. Detach yourself from material things.
What you own, owns you, and it doesn’t matter if you hide it at the bottom of the drawer, under your underwear.
So do yourself a favor, let Marie Kondo incarnate in you, and start doing a good spring cleaning to eliminate all the crap that doesn’t serve you.
For example,
- The secret Pandora’s boxes; are not collections of memories; they are shit you whip yourself with when you want to feel nostalgic. (this is a self-reminder 🙂
- The old cell phones you collect with their chargers that form a massive ball of cables, not even Pablo Escobar in the 80s would use them anymore. Recycle them.
- The half-dozen pants that, if you’re honest with yourself, you know you’ll never wear again because going back to your twenties is more complex than meeting Elon Musk and having him take you on one of his rockets to Mars. (also a self-reminder 🙂
- All those spices you keep in your pantry from when you used to smell like patchouli and say you were a hippie. Plus, all those nougats you hide in the fridge, dating back to Christmas 2020. Clean out the pantry of expired cans that you bought a decade ago and that you keep in case the apocalypse comes.
Cleaning out is a symbolic gesture and an addictive one because when you notice how good it feels to clear your environment of crap you no longer need, you can’t stop.
Remember that for new things to fit in your life, you have to make room 🙂
Note: this kind of detachment has the power to increase your happiness.
2. Detach yourself from fears.
Jim Rom said something to the effect that life was already risky from the moment you were born, so risky that you would eventually end up dead 🙁
And it’s true; that’s why you don’t have to play defense but attack. And attachment prevents us from taking risks.
I’m not suggesting you go to Vegas to gamble your savings at roulette.
What I’m saying is that if you do not accept controlled risks, your savings will lose value with time and inflation.
Investing is scary, but you must let go of fear and take risks.
To do that, you must diversify and live, knowing you can lose and win.
I usually reinvest in myself because by doing so, my capital increases. But sometimes I buy courses, books, etc., and I have to lose. So that’s the game of life, mate.
Note: this kind of detachment has the power to make you wealthy.
3. Detach yourself from your loved ones.
Attachment is a tribal instinct necessary for a family structure to generate enough stability to raise new generations. And that’s fine, but the B side of that attachment is wildly f*cked up.
That’s why we have to learn to let go little by little.
- We have to let our loved ones be without us.
- We have to stop expecting them to fulfill our expectations.
- We have to learn to live without them so as not to cripple them or condition their lives.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it is the best way for our relationships to be healthy and lasting.
Practice detachment and send to hell everything that keeps you stuck.
Note: this kind of detachment can make your loved ones admire you.
Yours,
A virtual hug
AG
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