Three Things I Had to Forgive and Forget to Get Out of Hell

#2. I forgot my enemies.

I remember when everything went wrong. I remember the pain. I remember the rage. I remember the helplessness. I remember the humiliation. I remember the shame.

I remember the smell of the f*cking pillow soaked with tears.

I remember the feel of the sheet I covered myself with so that not even God could see me defeated.

I remember me wanting to smile and not knowing, wanting to take a deep breath and not be able to take off an invisible weight that crushed my chest.

I remember burning.

I also remember that I had to forgive and, above all, forgive myself, and then forget to rebuild myself from the rubble of a life that could no longer be.

1. I forgot my personality

There is a big difference between your personality and your essence.

Persona comes from Latin and means mask. And the essence is the energy of the universe that makes flowers grow, and no planet gets out of its orbit. So that energy makes your heartbeat and your nails grow.

To access my essence, I had, like a bit of bird, to break the egg where I had isolated myself.

To do this, I stopped taking things for granted. And I forgot all those limiting beliefs imprinted on me since my earliest childhood.

I forgot the advice from my school teachers. I forgot about my friends’ advice. I forgot everything that didn’t serve me. And I threw it in the trash can.

I discovered that my personality was my personal reality.

So I change it to change my life.

2. I forgot my enemies

I realized that the hatred and resentment towards my former friends, ex-partner, and those who claimed to be my loved ones weighed too much.

The memory of the bad things they did to me would not let me move forward.

I learned that when your enemy wins, the best thing to do is get him out of your mind as soon as possible because all that resentment makes him keep winning every day, even though he is no longer present.

And for that, it is not enough to stop thinking about them; you have to forgive them in your heart to stop thinking about them with your mind.

It takes work. I know. But it is necessary.

Remember that it is about survival.

3. I forgot my sins

The only way to continue is to transcend all the evil suffered and self-inflicted. And for that, you have to seek redemption and feel that you deserve forgiveness.

And when one repents from the heart for his faults and sins, the healing process begins. Only then is one healed.

I remember doing the spiritual exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola and purifying myself.

I felt reborn.

I went to confession, and the priest told me, “Boy, not everyone has the grace to get back on track so late in life. To make it last, you have to forget your sins. Everything is new now. You’ve been reborn.”

And I want to tell you — whether you are Catholic, Protestant, Buddhist, atheist, [Insert your religious belief here] — that what brought me out of the valley of the shadow and death was forgiving myself and living every day trying to give the best of myself without wasting time tormenting myself for the failures I made.

I hope some of this helps you, dear friend.

A virtual hug

Alberto García 🚀🚀🚀