Discover this pearl of wisdom from one of the most remarkable spiritual persons alive ever.
Sometimes, life turns into Chef Gordon Ramsay and makes you a couple of pieces of toast spread with bad luck instead of butter. And a coffee with two tablespoons of adversity instead of sugar for breakfast.
One of those days, I sought refuge in my favorite Michael Singer book. I opened a page at random. And instead of finding solace. I found a disturbing truth.
Michael Singer’s haunting sentence.
“Life unfolds according to forces that are completely beyond your control, regardless of what your mind says about it.” — Michael Singer.
Damn! The book told me just what I didn’t want to hear: I don’t control shit.
I read another paragraph and more of the same: “Your thoughts affect the world far less than you imagine.”
I wanted to close the book, but being the masochist that I am, I kept reading, and good old Michael said, “If you are objective in looking at your thoughts, you will see that, for the most part, they have no relevance.”
SO WE CAN’T DO NOTHING TO CHANGE THINGS! I screamed at the top of my lungs and threw the book away.
When I had relaxed a bit, I went to the shower, and an epiphany ensued
The disturbing epiphany
“If most of my thoughts have no relevance, why do I let them f*ck up my life?”
If you think about it,
If something has no solution, why do you worry about it?
And if something has a solution, why worry about it if you will solve it sooner or later?
What matters is to take care of what I can control and not allow the thoughts born from a torrid date between my fears and frustrations to take away my energy.
Good old Mikie says, “Both the external world and the flow of internal emotions consist of things that come and go.”
Bingo! All are impermanent.
And just as the good doesn’t last forever, neither does the bad.
After that, a quote from my grandfather came to my mind, “Kid, when it’s your turn to climb a mountain boy, you can climb it in two ways, singing or complaining, but in both cases, you’ll have to climb it.”
Subject-object relationship with negative thoughts.
“You have a subject-object relationship with your thoughts. You are the subject, and the thoughts are just another object that you can be aware of.” — Michael Singer.
In other words, the mountain (the adverse circumstances you can’t change) will not disappear, but you will climb it. And the thoughts about the mountain (your thoughts about the crap life sends your way) will also pass.
Ergo, I can stop to observe my thoughts when they become more toxic than drinking poison.
And see that they are like clouds that come and go.
And understand that the sky of my mind, where those clouds (thoughts) dwell, is always blue.
Takeaway
I’m not suggesting you try to think only in positive thoughts that crowd out the negative ones. Not at all.
I’m trying to tell you that it’s normal to have evil thoughts when bad things happen to you.
But if you stop for a moment to observe those thoughts, you will discover that for a cloud (negative thought) to occupy a space in the sky (your mind), there must be a sky, and the sky is not the clouds.
Your mind is not your thoughts; it is where they occur.
The sky (your mind) is always blue.
So, those shitty emotions and thoughts are also going to pass 😉
A virtual hug
AG
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